ABOUT ME

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Before you select any Dating Coach or Couples Coach, ask the right questions:
1. Proof of the number of years experience working exclusively in a social-educational capacity
2. How many verifiable coaching hours do they currently have?
3. What prior background led up to coaching?

About me
During the 1970s and early 1980s I was director of my own singles organization, Contact Institute, which hosted interactive lectures and the earliest Speed Dating mixers in America. But let’s back up a bit; what led me to this full-time occupation?

Early research
Fifteen years before internet Dating Coaches existed I was already coaching singles and couples on meeting, dating, and relationship skills - based on Dr. George Bach’s research model and his UCLA ‘Pairing’ programs. I’ve continued helping singles using these and many other social skill models such as behavior modification, NLP, Gestalt, CBT, micro-skill analysis, and more. However, knowledge is only one of the keys to excellent coaching.

Nothing works like experience
Consultants coming in from other fields have a major obstacle before becoming true experts in date coaching or couples coaching. Not only are they faced with learning the latest skills sets and microskills, they need an enormous amount of practice and experience. Psychotherapists do this via a three-thousand-hour internship.

Gaining massive experience
To date, I have personally conducted over 2,150 singles and couples workshops. Initially they were held at the Experimental College division of Cal State University, Northridge. They were no-fee, research-based programs attended by university students. Quickly though, they attracted single women and men of all ages. Then I expanded into other colleges, singles organizations and my own, specialized group work at my Westwood office in California.

Skill sets were developed from single-topic workshops, such as:
• How To meet and identify the right person
• Shyness workshops
• Single women only workshops
• Men-only workshops
• Conversational workshops, generally attended by singles
• Speed dating events in Southern California which I personally facilitated
• Couples workshops
• Women’s workshops

Workshops were conducted, on average, twice a week, every week, every year, until I had put in roughly 9,675 hours, practicing, refining and enhancing my skill knowledge base. But workshops were only part of my internship.

Private coaching
My one-on-one singles and couples coaching presently exceeds 7,400 hours of session time, most of it the direct result of workshops, lectures, facilitation and referrals; with the smallest number of clients coming from the Internet. I have one of the longest time spans of individual experience in the singles-educational field in America-and . . . it’s verifiable!

My professional standard of excellence: guaranteed results!
With 39+ years as an experienced Dating Coach-researcher and college lecturer, the social skill techniques I utilize in my sessions are proven, tested and guaranteed to meet or exceed your expectations. Or simply, you don’t pay. Fair enough?

Here is a comprehensive list of the locations where I have lectured:
• UCLA Experimental College • Cal. Tech University, student and faculty presentation • California State University, Experimental College • USC Extension division, assisted in facilitating at Dr. Maria Edwards’ course “The Challenge Of Being Single” • Santa Monica College (where I taught many of my couples only courses) • ElCamino College • The Learning Annex • The Information Exchange • Orange Coast College •Valley College • Saddleback College • Irvine Valley College • Coastline College • Goldenwest College • Pierce College • Moorpark College • TRW Corporation • Mission College • Learning Tree University • National Singles Expo • West Los Angeles College • East Los Angeles College • Rancho Santiago College • Sinai Temple singles group • Mormon Church of Pasadena • PWP Chapters–SF Valley and West LA • Bel Air Presbyterian Church singles group • Granada Hills High School 8 week pilot dating workshop; the first of it’s kind in the US • El Camino College • Young Single Parents • Temple Beth Shalom singles group • Cerritos College •Glendale College • Mensa Singles (the high IQ society) • And my own singles educational and research organization: Contact Institute.

Ongoing experimental projects:
• Currently creating a no-fee, pilot Dating Communication Course for middle school kids
• Developing and prototyping a singles Internet project
• Launching a new “version three” of the couples communication workshop

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