Before you select any Dating Coach or Couples Coach, ask the
1. Proof of the number of years experience working exclusively in a social-educational
2. How many verifiable coaching hours do they currently have?
3. What prior background led up to coaching?
During the 1970s and early 1980s I was director of my own singles organization,
Contact Institute, which hosted interactive lectures and the earliest Speed
Dating mixers in America. But let’s back up a bit; what led me to this
Fifteen years before internet Dating Coaches existed I was already coaching
singles and couples on meeting, dating, and relationship skills - based on
Dr. George Bach’s research model and his UCLA ‘Pairing’ programs.
I’ve continued helping singles using these and many other social skill
models such as behavior modification, NLP, Gestalt, CBT, micro-skill analysis,
and more. However, knowledge is only one of the keys to excellent coaching.
Nothing works like experience
Consultants coming in from other fields have a major obstacle before becoming
true experts in date coaching or couples coaching. Not only are they faced
with learning the latest skills sets and microskills, they need an enormous
amount of practice and experience. Psychotherapists do this via a three-thousand-hour
Gaining massive experience
To date, I have personally conducted over 2,150 singles and couples workshops.
Initially they were held at the Experimental College division of Cal State
University, Northridge. They were no-fee, research-based programs attended
by university students. Quickly though, they attracted single women and men
of all ages. Then I expanded into other colleges, singles organizations and
my own, specialized group work at my Westwood office in California.
Skill sets were developed from single-topic workshops,
• How To meet and identify the right person
• Shyness workshops
• Single women only workshops
• Men-only workshops
• Conversational workshops, generally attended by singles
• Speed dating events in Southern California which I personally facilitated
• Couples workshops
• Women’s workshops
Workshops were conducted, on average, twice a week, every week, every year,
until I had put in roughly 9,675 hours, practicing, refining and enhancing
my skill knowledge base. But workshops were only part of my internship.
My one-on-one singles and couples coaching presently exceeds 7,400 hours of
session time, most of it the direct result of workshops, lectures, facilitation
and referrals; with the smallest number of clients coming from the Internet.
I have one of the longest time spans of individual experience in the singles-educational
field in America-and . . . it’s verifiable!
My professional standard of excellence: guaranteed
With 39+ years as an experienced Dating Coach-researcher and college lecturer,
the social skill techniques I utilize in my sessions are proven, tested and
guaranteed to meet or exceed your expectations. Or simply, you don’t
pay. Fair enough?
Here is a comprehensive list of the locations where
I have lectured:
• UCLA Experimental College • Cal. Tech University, student and faculty
presentation • California State University, Experimental College • USC
Extension division, assisted in facilitating at Dr. Maria Edwards’ course “The
Challenge Of Being Single” • Santa Monica College (where I taught
many of my couples only courses) • ElCamino College • The Learning
Annex • The Information Exchange • Orange Coast College •Valley
College • Saddleback College • Irvine Valley College • Coastline
College • Goldenwest College • Pierce College • Moorpark College • TRW
Corporation • Mission College • Learning Tree University • National
Singles Expo • West Los Angeles College • East Los Angeles College • Rancho
Santiago College • Sinai Temple singles group • Mormon Church of
Pasadena • PWP Chapters–SF Valley and West LA • Bel Air Presbyterian
Church singles group • Granada Hills High School 8 week pilot dating workshop;
the first of it’s kind in the US • El Camino College • Young
Single Parents • Temple Beth Shalom singles group • Cerritos College •Glendale
College • Mensa Singles (the high IQ society) • And my own singles
educational and research organization: Contact Institute.
Ongoing experimental projects:
• Currently creating a no-fee, pilot Dating Communication Course for middle
• Developing and prototyping a singles Internet project
• Launching a new “version three” of the couples communication
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